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How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You: Understanding How Men Communicate
by Nancy Cobb, Connie Grigsby
Product Group: Book
Publisher: Multnomah Books (2008-01-15)
ISBN: 1590527429
EAN: 9781590527429
Dewy Decimal #: 248.8435
Paperback: 240 pages
Release Date: 2008-01-15
SKU: N3007
Condition: Very Good
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Editorial Reviews
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Product Description
You talk for thirty minutes, telling him every detail of your day.
He has three great ideas for how to fix your problems.
“Why can’t you just listen to me?” you ask. You pull back, he gives up, and your marriage suffers.
The problem? He’s a man. And you expect a girlfriend.
You could play the blame game. Or dish out the cold treatment. Or find a better way.…
Many women feel their husbands don’t listen the way they “should.” How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You is not about how to change a man’s God-given way of thinking but about how to initiate healthy communication and enjoy the blessing of a husband who wants to listen.
Discover specific ways to:
•Help your husband value what you say and how you say it
•Understand what your husband really wants (and it might not be what you think!)
•Rebuild love and respect in your marriage
•Become a wife whose husband wants her insights
•Strengthen communication in marriage through your communication with God
•Give your husband the desire to listen to your needs, your words, and your heart
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Customer Reviews
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demeaning to women
Rating  (1)
Date: 2008-05-07
1 out of 3 customers found this reveiw helpful
This is a horrible book. It is very misleading i thought it would be helpful but lowering myself to door mat status is not my idea of healthy marriage. It is very demeaning to women.Reminded me of beaver cleaver times. The best part about this book is when I burned it on my barbeque pit. I couldn't in good conscience put it in my yard sale I didn't want anyone to read this garbage.
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Not for todays' woman
Rating (1)
Date: 2008-04-08
2 out of 4 customers found this reveiw helpful
Reviewed by Vicki Landes for Reader Views (4/08)
Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby obviously know what it takes to get a woman's interest peaked. Their new book, "How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You," is definitely titled to get your undivided attention. Even more, the cover art is an absolutely perfect match: a woman, jaw dropped and mouth wide open, bellowing into a megaphone which sits only inches from her husband's deer-in-the-headlights, expressionless face. It only took me half a second to conclude that this would be a profoundly educational book...but as the old adage says, don't judge a book by its cover.
"How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You" is essentially a trip back in time and reminded me of an old home economics book from the 1950s -- you know, advice about primping and dressing up before your husband gets home so you can look pretty for him or straightening up the house so when he walks in from a long day at work, his home looks clean. "Before you start telling him everything that has happened to you and the kids while he's been gone, turn all your attention to him, his words, and his needs." If he isn't doing things around the house (like mowing the lawn or some other item you've been asking him to take care of), simply start taking the responsibility of doing it yourself? Instead of obtaining an education on how to make my husband into a better communicator, I was being told how I, as a wife, needed to change by cutting details out of my conversations or not talking to him about things that don't interest him. About halfway through the book, I was convinced that Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby were actually the pen names of two male authors, snickering as they poured their submissive wishes into each and every chapter.
I honestly can't see how any mature, self-respecting woman would take any stock in the advice from "How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You." As a wife, it isn't your job to shelter your husband from reality. If he forgets to do a project at work, do you think his boss will smile and take on that project without complaint? No, there would be any number of consequences from a simple reprimand to the loss of employment. If he goes out in public and acts negligent and discourteous, again there are consequences. Why should it be any different with responsibilities at home? If you tell your children to do something and they don't do it, there are penalties. By ignoring a husband's irresponsibility and disrespect, you are teaching them that - if they are lucky enough to be born with a penis - their wives must conform to their way of thinking and their way of living. In today's society, we need more books that deal with maturity, coexistence vs. racial and religious tensions, and higher education. Books like "How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You" can be dangerous in a society already fraught with unrealistic body image, women with low self-esteem, and a high rate of violent crimes against women.
I'm convinced that Nancy Cobb, Connie Grigsby, and "How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You" would have been an enormous hit 50+ years ago but in today's society, their ideology is not only outdated but potentially harmful. Striving for better marital communication is both a positive and mature subject to write about but it shouldn't come at the detriment of one partner.
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A good book to bridge the communication gap
Rating  (4)
Date: 2008-04-05
1 out of 2 customers found this reveiw helpful
This book should be compulsory reading to all women who are contemplating marriage and who plan to raise children. It could be recommended reading to all men too! Rather strong views you say? Bear with me for a few minutes and you will agree with me.
In an excellently readable book, authors Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby get to the fundamental reason for the big divide between the two genders - communication problems. Using many day-to-day examples, they bring out beautifully the different ways women and men communicate and how a mismatch between the communication processes leads to a breakdown of the communication process and thus the relationship! Since this is an online review, you will be able to read excerpts of the book (Check the Editorial Reviews for excerpts).
Some books hold you with their clear, lucid, highly readable style. This is one of them. Add good editing and good printing and you have a winner.
For those readers who are not Christians, some of the passages or suggestions may not hold much appeal, but the book is still a good read and much of the advice given by the authors is delinked from religion.
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Insight and Encouragement for Every Wife
Rating  (5)
Date: 2008-03-11
This is a fantastic book! It gave me such insight into my husband, the way he thiniks and how I can communicate better with him.
I am pasing it onto a friend, and will tell as many girlfriends as I can about it.
Very powerful stuff....Thanks, Nancy and Connie, for opening up your hearts and sharing your tips with us.
Blessings-
Trish Berg
Book Reviewes, Author, Wife and Mother of 4
www.TrishBerg.com
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A Nudge in the Right Direction
Rating (4)
Date: 2008-03-10
1 out of 2 customers found this reveiw helpful
How To Get Your Husband to Listen to You is a humorous yet beneficial tool to understanding the different ways men and women communicate. Without male bashing, the authors discuss why men may become frustrated with communicating with women. The authors offer insightful and useful alternatives to ease the frustration for both parties.
Part I: Why Is This So Hard and Part II: How Not to Shoot Yourself in the Foot, stood out the most to me because admittedly, I do some of the things listed. I didn't feel preached to rather encouraged to see another way of expressing myself. I especially laughed at the section about over thinking situations. I get on my own nerves sometimes when I over analyze situations.
I wasn't alone! The authors fessed up to times in their marriages when they "shot themselves in the foot"but learned healthier communication methods which they share in part III: Opening His Heart, Opening His Ears. And it all comes together for you in Part IV: Aha! Moments.
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